Many people will tell you they don’t discuss politics or religion, claiming it’s ‘personal’ or unproductive. However, they will carelessly discuss random relationships, their hair, what they ate for dinner 2 weeks ago, the color of the socks they have on, what they wear to bed every night… along with other void filling nonsense. But once any subject or topic that resonates as uncomfortable is brought up, they RUN.
The problem isn’t that it’s personal, the core issue is COMMUNICATION. Or the inability to communicate. The FEAR of confrontation, rejection, misunderstanding, or simply because they are unable to openly express why they believe, follow, or feel a certain way.
Lack of constructive communication skills causes severe emotional, physical and mental destruction; not just in America, globally. We should all be able to openly communicate with tact and vulnerability, without hesitation, but with tolerance and acceptance. While also possessing the ability to LISTEN, to fully absorb a response, without misinterpretation. THOUGHTFULLY; in consideration for the other person’s feelings and persepctive.
Our society is in desperate need of a vocal awakening. Rather than avoiding matters of substance, we need to accept sharing and spreading our voices for the common good. We must start with teaching our Children how to communicate with their classmates and friends; openly and calmly expressing as well as receiving information. If not in school, then it is our responsibility to future generations to implement vulnerable open communication at home. It starts with YOU. Don’t just tell your child to SPEAK, show them how to positively communicate. Express your affection, doubts, concern, and praise without any avoidance, but with love and sincerity. Encourage your children to express themselves authentically, to embrace new information and to openly discuss their curiosities.
There are far too many adults who are unable to communicate, discuss ideas or express emotions effectively. This is a poor refelction on our culture and we CAN DO BETTER. One must put forth more effort into helping each other accept vulnerability and in finding the courage to use our voices.
Technological advances have made it too easy for all of us to avoid healthy constructive conversations. With picture apps, texting, social networks, slang and shorthand, our face to face communication skills are becoming nonexistent.
We’re all guilty of not receiving information well at times and becoming offended, being defensive, critical or completely misunderstanding someone. Again, we are then unable to respond thoughtfully and calmly, because we didn’t learn how to clearly communicate or express thought and emotion.
We simply don’t understand one another. We judge, blame, criticize, doubt and are then fearful of all that we can’t fathom or comprehend. This creates great divide among different cultures, in relationships(business &family), and all stems from lack of honest and authentic communication.
Ultimately, this miscommunication leads to extreme emotional distress, hate, discrimination, and ethnocentric attitudes(Crimes-Wars-etc.). The inability to communicate leads to many more problems on a daily basis than we even realize or choose to acknoweldge.
So take this as Food For Thought: Be receptive, open, vulnerable and take the time to authentically express yourself. Listen. Agree to disagree, but please, face life head on, don’t avoid conversation.
Be Courageous. Discuss your ideas, fears, goals, emotions and perspective; someone will be there to listen.
SPEAK. Be a VOICE not an ECHO
Thoughts are my own, Sincerely, Rosalie Bardo