Many will tell you they refuse to discuss politics or religion, claiming it’s ‘personal’ or unproductive. However, they’ll carelessly discuss random relationships, their hair, what they ate for dinner 2 weeks ago or what is worn to bed every night… along with other void filling nonsense.
But once any topic that resonates as awkward or intolerable is brought up, they RUN.
The problem isn’t that it’s personal, the core issue is COMMUNICATION.
The Inability To Communicate.
The FEAR of confrontation, rejection, misunderstanding, or because one is merely unable to openly express why they believe or feel a certain way.
Lack of constructive communication skills lead to severe emotional, physical and mental devastation.
Add to this the technological advances that have made it far too easy for us to avoid healthy or necessary conversations-picture apps, texting, social networks, slang/shorthand- and our Face to Face communication skills are becoming nonexistent.
We’re all guilty of completely misunderstanding someone and feeling offended or becoming defensive and critical.
We blame, criticize, doubt and are then fearful of all that we can’t fathom or comprehend..
…Simply because We Don’t Understand One Another.
There are far too many adults unable to discuss ideas or express emotions effectively, and this is a poor reflection on our society.
WE CAN DO BETTER.
Rather than avoiding matters of substance, can we accept utilizing our voices for the common good?
It’s our responsibility, to future generations, in setting the example by implementing vulnerable and open communication at home, with friends and in public. It starts with YOU.
Don’t just tell your child to SPEAK, show them how to positively communicate.
Express your affection, doubts, concern, and praise without avoidance, but with love and sincerity.
Encourage your children to genuinely express themselves, to embrace new information and to openly discuss their curiosities.
Never be afraid to use your voice and speak your truth
Ultimately, the inability to communicate leads to extreme emotional distress, hate, discrimination, ethnocentric attitudes(Crimes-Wars-etc.), and a multitude of problems on a daily basis within our relationships(family & business) that few choose to acknowledge.
However, mustering the courage to openly share or exchange information with tact, vulnerability, tolerance and acceptance is incredibly empowering.
Add to this- the ability to LISTEN, or fully absorb a response, while taking into consideration the other person’s perspective-
and You Will Experience a Vocal Awakening.
We’re all CONNECTED and I genuinely believe we should never stop absorbing knowledge from those around us.
Listen. Agree to disagree, but please, face life head on, and don’t avoid conversation.
SPEAK. Be a VOICE not an ECHO
Sincerely, Rosalie Bardo