3 Tips To Abandon Your Control-Freak Tendencies

You know those random, uncontrollable moments that cause you to immediately panic or feel completely lost?

For instance, when you receive an unexpected phone call from an ex, or you run into an old high school friend you’d seriously like to avoid.

We’ve all been there. You think, “Why me!” You freeze, wide-eyed, confused, somewhat composed on the outside, but panicking on the inside.

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Even if you’re alone, you quickly look around as if to ask someone else, “Fight or flight?” That’s life. Sometimes, unexplainable weird or arduous events just happen.

You catch your girlfriend cheating. You’re on your way to work and have a wreck. You just bought your favorite coffee, then you bump into a stranger and it knocks straight out of your hands.

You’re suddenly fired from your dream job, a position you’ve held for seven years. Or, in the extreme case, your mom calls you to let you know a close family member passed away.

Depending on your individual personality and coping skills, a small occurrence, like a spilled coffee or a fender bender can feel just as distressing as receiving the worst phone call of your life from your mother.

Recently, I experienced a high-anxiety moment, but one I found to be much more upsetting than the usual, everyday life mishap.

While sitting in the doctor’s office for my yearly check-up, the nurse walked in too calmly and far too casually to inform me, “You’re four weeks pregnant.”

And, just like that, my life changed. An unplanned pregnancy? Okay, it happens. I can do this.

However, the overwhelmed control freak in me immediately began to dissect my career, my future, my boyfriend, my body, what our families would think, and whether this one moment would shift my entire life plan.

Read the rest of my article published here : http://elitedaily.com/life/ways-relinquishing-control/970227/

And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been

You Stand Before Beginnings

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”
                                                                      – Rainer Maria Rilke

5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Evaluating Your Purpose

RosalieBardoKelownaMountain We all reach points in life when the mundane habits of our everyday existence are no longer fulfilling. Maybe you feel stuck, aimless, or like you haven’t reached the level of success you’d envisioned having by this time in your life.

Perhaps people have taken advantage of your services, kindness or diligence, and you’ve selflessly given in. For many of us, certain aspects of life feel extremely depressing or overwhelming. This desperation drives us to ask, “Why am I here? What am I doing with my life?”

Truthfully, if you’re questioning your existence, you’re probably trying to navigate your way through a rough life transition. Whatever the circumstance, this is your shot at personal growth and evolution. Let’s face it: You might need a reality check.

Asking why you’re here is completely rational and should be addressed, but the answers are often very open-ended and never result in the life-changing solutions you probably seek.

Frankly, we need better questions. We must strip away the layers of confusion and stop wallowing in self-pity. So, why not be courageous, join the tribe of liberated minds and acknowledge that your choices dictate your life? Accountability is attractive.

What comes to mind when you think of who you are? Are you fulfilling what you believe to be your purpose? Or, are you a zombie, stuck in the dysfunctional behavioral cycle of procrastination, excuses and living in fear?

Continue reading Rosalie’s article, published on ELITEDAILY.COM: 5 Questions To Ask Yourself When Evaluating Your Purpose

#LIVEWITHPASSION

Hot Question: Venice Beach

Rosalie Bardo spent a day interviewing locals and tourists at Venice Beach, California along with Brittney Andreesen, the host of  BrittneyTv.com

           The two filmed an episode of  “Hot Question” for BrittneyTv.com, asking:

“What Do You Want To Be Known For?”

They connected with entertainers, athletes, musicians, and the creator of the new DJ Skee DASH RADIO App.

“Often the simplest things are the most powerful. We are all CONNECTED and I genuinely believe we should never stop absorbing knowledge from those around us. Observe: Gain from another’s experience. We all have something unique to share, so go out and engage the world with compassion, patience and generosity.” -Rosalie Bardo

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How I Learned to Live With Passion (article: Elite Daily)

How I Learned to Live With Passion (article via Elite Daily)

My grandmother Brenda was born in the mountains of Alabama in 1942. By the age of 19, just months after giving birth to my mother, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia.

Mental illness was not discussed in the 1950s and 60s like it is today. It was a taboo subject in rural areas of the South, which left many people shunned, hidden away and accepting the few treatment options that were often just radical experiments.

My grandmother was one of these hidden individuals. Brenda was institutionalized her entire adult life, bouncing around between mental hospitals and group homes in Alabama and Tennessee, until the day she died in 2012 at 70 years old.

Can you fathom being mentally and physically confined in a way that is completely beyond your control for 51 years?

Read the Rest of Brenda’s story here -> http://elitedaily.com/life/learned-live-passion-grandmothers-struggle-schizophrenia/

Authentic LOVE: Connected: Los Angeles

Rosalie Bardo spent a day reaching out to a few locals in Los Angeles, California. Wandering from Hollywood and Highland to the Valley, asking them all one simple question.

Perspective:
What is Authentic Love?

“Often the simplest things are the most powerful. We are all CONNECTED and I genuinely believe we should never stop absorbing knowledge from those around us. Observe: Gain from another’s experience. We all have something unique to share, so go out and engage the world with compassion, patience and generosity.” -Rosalie Bardo

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Song: Champion by The Chevin

Connected: The People of Venice Beach, Los Angeles

Rosalie Bardo spent a day authentically embracing the locals of Venice Beach, California.

Perspective: If you could give one piece of advice to the world, what would it be?

“Often the simplest things are the most powerful. We are all CONNECTED and I genuinely believe we should never stop absorbing knowledge from those around us. Observe: Gain from another’s experience. We all have something unique to share, so go out and engage the world with compassion, patience and generosity.” -Rosalie Bardo

Produced by Bardo Entertainment (P) 2014

The Locust Effect

The Locust Effect

Imagine what life would be like if you woke up every single day afraid to go to school or afraid to walk to your local grocery store. Afraid to share your story with local authorities because you knew your voice would not be heard. 

Imagine what life would be like if you had NOTHING shielding you from violence.

“While the world has made encouraging strides in the fight against global poverty, there is a hidden crisis silently undermining our best efforts to help the poor….

…It is a plague of everyday VIOLENCE.”

I was honored to be given a chance to read an advance copy of ‘The Locust Effect‘ written by Gary Haugen, CEO of the International Justice Mission (http://www.ijm.org/). I’d like to share with you a few notes about the book and how we all can TAKE ACTION to positively impact those suffering from violence and poverty.

The Locust Effect

Everyday thousands of people around the world work for humanitarian organizations invested in helping those in need, ending poverty and spreading awareness for Universal Human Rights. Many of these organizations solely focus on water aid, food aid, disease prevention, shelter, and education; unintentionally avoiding the underlying CORE issue(VIOLENCE) that strongly dictates the overall impact or efforts of their work in ending poverty.

There are many devastating things happening all over the world at any given time, but this book genuinely emphasizes how important everyday basic safety truly is in order to lead any sort of a productive life. 

For example, we may be able to build a school in the developing world to give the opportunity for a substantial education, but of what use is this school if young girls are traumatized and afraid to walk there every morning due to the fear of rape or abduction? They inevitably do not receive a formal education, nor do they receive necessary assistance or protection from local law enforcement in order for them to flourish and make steady progress.    

The core argument of The Locust Effect is that the direct solution to violence against the poor is law enforcement.

How can a society restrain violence if it only addresses the exacerbating factors in the absence of a functioning justice system? The Locust Effect lifts the veil on common forms of violence against the poor in the developing world(Corrupt police officers, forced labor, rape, murder) and sheds light on the lives of the 4 billion who live outside of the law’s protection.

This book is painful to read, but worth every heartbreaking minute. There are many detailed personal accounts of devastating violence against families and individuals who have no honest or effective way of protecting themselves. Nonetheless, it’s an enlightening and necessary read pertaining to universal human rights for those interested in making a lasting and positive global impact.

In order for there to be successful unified progress in ending global poverty, we must first address the underlying core issue of violence and the brokenness of developing world justice systems.

Violence and abuse may often be hidden, however we can no longer deny or turn a blind eye to it’s powerful negative impact on the world’s poor.

The Locust Effect will effortlessly inspire you and lead YOU to TAKE ACTION.

This book can be used as a tool for knowledge and motivation. It will forever change the way you view those living in poverty, and leave you with the hope that we CAN and WILL create safer environments for the poor to be given the equal opportunity to thrive!

In 2015 there will still be around 883 million people living in extreme poverty.

IJM is wholeheartedly invested in fighting to help those who have been taken advantage of(without financial means to protect themselves).

Please assist IJM and Be A Voice for those with No Voice.

Buy The Locust Effect February 2-8 and for every copy sold in the U.S., a generous donor will give $20 to IJM*. (*up to $40,000 – enough to cover the cost of 8 rescue operations.)

Visit http://www.thelocusteffect.com/ to Learn more and to Get Involved!

Follow IJM on Twitter for Daily Updates!  https://twitter.com/IJM

*All author royalties from your purchase of this book will help fight violence against the poor*

Food For Thought: Communication

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Communication

Many will tell you they refuse to discuss politics or religion, claiming it’s ‘personal’ or unproductive.  However,  they’ll carelessly discuss random relationships, their hair, what they ate for dinner 2 weeks ago or what is worn to bed every night… along with other void filling nonsense.

But once any topic that resonates as awkward or intolerable is brought up, they RUN.

The problem isn’t that it’s personal, the core issue is COMMUNICATION.


The Inability To Communicate.

The FEAR of confrontation, rejection, misunderstanding, or because one is merely unable to openly express why they believe or feel a certain way.

Lack of constructive communication skills lead to severe emotional, physical and mental devastation.

Add to this the technological advances that have made it far too easy for us to avoid healthy or necessary conversations-picture apps, texting, social networks, slang/shorthand-  and our Face to Face communication skills are becoming nonexistent.

We’re all guilty of completely misunderstanding someone and feeling offended or becoming defensive and critical.

We blame, criticize, doubt and are then fearful of all that we can’t fathom or comprehend..

 …Simply because We Don’t Understand One Another.

There are far too many adults unable to discuss ideas or express emotions effectively, and this is a poor reflection on our society.

WE CAN DO BETTER.


Rather than avoiding matters of substance, can we accept utilizing our voices for the common good?

 It’s our responsibility, to future generations, in setting the example by implementing vulnerable and open communication at home, with friends and in public. It starts with YOU.

Don’t just tell your child to SPEAK, show them how to positively communicate.

Express your affection, doubts, concern, and praise without avoidance, but with love and sincerity.

Encourage your children to genuinely express themselves, to embrace new information and to openly discuss their curiosities.


Never be afraid to use your voice and speak your truth


Ultimately, the inability to communicate leads to extreme emotional distress, hate, discrimination, ethnocentric attitudes(Crimes-Wars-etc.), and a multitude of problems on a daily basis within our relationships(family & business) that few choose to acknowledge.

However, mustering the courage to openly share or exchange information with tact, vulnerability, tolerance and acceptance is incredibly empowering.

Add to this- the ability to LISTEN, or  fully absorb a response, while taking  into consideration the other person’s perspective-

 and You Will Experience a Vocal Awakening.


We’re all CONNECTED and I genuinely believe we should never stop absorbing knowledge from those around us.

Listen. Agree to disagree, but please, face life head on, and don’t avoid conversation.

Be Courageous.  

SPEAK. Be a VOICE not an ECHO

Sincerely, Rosalie Bardo